This is the email I sent to Shiloh this afternoon. I thought it would be a good, raw, sharing email... I did some updates in italics.
My day seemed be going pretty well. Go the kids to marissas at 9:52 (target was 9:45am). Got to go jogging for 30 minutes. Came back to Marissa's to get the kids packed up to go. Getting them to clean up a few toys was painful. had to discipline Lydia. Asked her 14 times if she needed to go potty. no, no, no. So I get jordis in the carseat and out the door we go. of course within seconds elijah is bent over digging in the dirt. Lydia comes running up the walkway, "I peed." Fabulous. Back in the house. Put her on the potty (nothing). Get her changed and in the car.
And as I type this (and feed jordis lunch) they both just came down stairs. Have to go potty (again).
Get home. Trying to talk to kati and tim on the phone to check in with them. Get out of the car. Elijah goes right for his loud 4 wheeler. So much for trying to have a conversation. Get them in the house.They work together nicely to make a fort (yea!). I nurse jords and put her down for a nap. Then shower. Elijah comes up while I am shower and asks for apples. Lydia walks in bow legged. Clearly has peed her pants again. So she hops in the shower with me. I get them their apples (but not first without Elijah not saying, "MOoooom, where are my apples?!!!") And let them eat them in their fort.
I finally get dressed, get lyds dressed and get the paperwork (for preschool) for Dr. W in the mail with a note and return envelope.
Get turkey sandwiches made for all of us and let them eat their in their fort. Although lydia barely ate hers and said she was done. I warned her she would be hungry later and would not get food. She didn't care. (She was hungry and asking for food an hour later. Sorry Charlie.)
Then they went outside to play (after having wrote on themselves with marker at some point during all of this - after the shower of course). Rode bikes. Lyds needed help so I went out there and pushed her and assisted her on her dora bike. Down the alley through the back yard to the other side and back. over and over. Talked with you on the phone about your break (Shiloh's breaks are all messed up on his car even though they were replaced 3 weeks ago) drama. At this point, I was actually thinking it was a pretty good day. I got to exercise (when kids were at marissa's). The kids played well with the fort even if only for 30 minutes or so. I got to spend time with them outside.
So I decide to go get the trash cans and put them in the sideyard. (interruption while typing this. They are supposed to be in their beds napping. I hear noise upstairs. Lydia has clearly been out of bed. "I need to go pee!" She exclaims as I open the door. Fine. Go ahead. And then I disciplined her for getting out of bed. "No. No. I don't have to go pee." I still hear noise up there) While I am in the front getting one I hear screaming. First I thought it was the baby, but it was Lyds. She had some sort of altercation with Elijah. You caught this drama as you called in the midst of it. Lyds goes inside. Now Jordis is screaming from her crib. I have Elijah go inside. It is nap time for both of them. Elijah has to lay there for at least 30 minutes. But of course, within 30 seconds they both have to go potty even though I asked them right before hand. Fine. I was in the middle of changing a pooper from Jordis at this point. They are in the upstairs bathroom. They both pee and Elijah decides to "clean out" the baby potty unbeknownst to me. So she picks up her potty (that he has emptied, right) to take it to the counter as a stool and water comes out everywhere. "Oh,when I rinsed it out. i forgot. I forgot to dump the water out." Great, now he is lying. I have put jordis down at this point to deal with it. She is crying hysterically. I am scolding Elijah when Lydia slips on the pee water that is everywhere and lands hard on the tile on her butt. Now she is crying, baby is crying. Elijah is washing his hands carelessly and soap dumps on the floor. This is when I squeal. Not a yell, but an little internal frustrated squeal that I can demonstrate later. I send the kids to their rooms. Mop up what I can with a towel. Have a talk with elijah about it all. Twice because when I asked him if he understood how I felt or where I was coming from he said no. So i reexplained it. (just had to go upstairs AGAIN!!!! No one fessed to anything but it sure sounded like out of bed to me). How he was being inconsiderate. Not really cleaning her toilet. Purposely filling it up knowing it would be spilled and then lying about it. Then I have a big mess to clean, etc. So he is crying about it again. I told them I need a timeout from them. "After our timeout can we get out of bed?" Asks lydia. "No, you are taking a nap." Stay in bed, etc. etc.
Why is being a stay at home mom so freakin' hard? And I wouldn't even say i am having an mbd. Just frustrated. Really frustrtated that it is often so unenjoyable. At least jordis is cute. She is crawling around, playing, putting everything in her mouth.
Just needed to share.
Very glad you are safe and you didn't drive to fremont.
W
P.S. Elijah does not usually nap. But I thought he needed to rest today. Lydia naps a couple of times a week. Because they have been behaving so poorly and whining + attitudes I instituted no sugar and no shows this week. The no shows is painful for me because that is when I get stuff done. But I think they needed a little cleanse from it all until we go to disneyland and poison them with non stop sugar. They never ended up napping. I just threw them in the car and took them on a "drive." At least they are all strapped down that way. And I didn't include any pics in the email. They are from yesterday. I threw them in there just for fun. And so I could look at them and think, "They are so sweet and fun and cute. And today wasn't such a bad day right?"
